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reblogging again because this post has less than 4000 notes but the one about trans men has over 20k

really? ew. reblogging this again then.

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in 2012, frank ocean came out as bisexual and laura jane grace came out as trans and began her physical transition

these were both majorly important steps for queer recognition

yet an organization gave an award to katy perry (sp?) for being the most inspiring to lgbt youth because of her song “firework”

just in case anyone missed that bullshit



Today the British Parliament voted to legalize gay marriage in the UK. The vote was 400 to 175 - a majority of 225.
in other words…YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reblogging for those numbers. :-)



Today the British Parliament voted to legalize gay marriage in the UK. The vote was 400 to 175 - a majority of 225.

in other words…YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reblogging for those numbers. :-)



All of these arguments going around centered around sexuality and pairing preference seemed focused on sex. Being comfortable with queer women having sex or women having sex or a lack thereof. I could understand that, except that isn’t the entire problem.

I don’t see gen writing for female characters. I don’t see E through T rated stories for queer female couples.

I see a fraction of the art, explicit or otherwise.

I don’t see the shipping meta, even for canon couples. I don’t see two female characters who share a smile or a compliment getting gifsets like two male characters do. There doesn’t even have to be sex, and yet there’s a dearth of a following.

I see fandom attaching like magnets to shows with a male-majority cast and ignoring shows with actual queer and sex-balanced casts. This also applies to novels, movies, and everything else.

If you are personally uncomfortable with your own body, I am never going to tell you not to be, but queer fiction for women (and I mean for women) is still suffocated. Historically, queer women’s sexuality has been dismantled as ‘not enough’ to count. They’re just friends. Boston marriages. Priests in the church saying they can’t actually comprehend about how two women have sex.

Queer historians have trouble even finding proof of queer female relationships in history. There’s Sappho and then occasionally they find a Dark Ages arrest warrant and once we finally reach the 1900s, there’s more to scrape up and display. Whereas a certain kind of queer male sexuality has been celebrated in many, many culture’s histories (Japan and ancient Greece immediately come to mind), the same cannot be said for women. Women have been wives and slaves and tools, not independent sexual beings. I can break out the books if people really want me to.

I even run a blog on the topic. Every piece on queer female sexuality on there represents hours of research and money out of my pocket. Whenever I post something dedicated to queer male sexuality, I just run a Google search. I get plenty of results, citations and all. It’s not hidden.

In the same era that Sappho was being ‘straightened out’ by playwrights and translators changed pronouns in her poetry from ‘she’ to ‘he’ so it was fit for public consumption centuries later, Walt Whitman was publishing Leaves of Grass.

It is only recently that it’s become - in the circle of mainstream pornography and media, which we already know is a pile of garbage - a male gaze showoff. And rather than it being reclaimed, it’s been abandoned. I’ve been in fandom for a decade now and with the exception of one fandom off the top of my head - Xena, since every male character of significance is killed at some point - femslash is the smallest slice of the pie. And not twenty percent or ten percent, but maybe, just maybe five percent.

Then you have to sort through the normal writing slog of half of what you find is going to be terrible and a fair amount is going to be something you don’t ship. We’ve gotten used to clawing for some crumbs because even other queer women aren’t comfortable writing what should be an instrument of their own sexuality.

Male sexuality, historically and presently, has always been celebrated more than female sexuality, straight or otherwise. Women are not supposed to be sexual, and plenty of queer women have been brand as manhaters for not joining in on the male celebration. They’re frigid, they’re dykes, and they need to be ‘corrected’. I don’t want to risk triggering people by explaining all the ways that has happened, but you don’t have far to look if you want to find out.

This is not a recent problem or a fandom problem. It is a historical problem. If you want a recent reference read this article and the comments beneath from published erotic fiction authors. There isn’t just a lack of interest in writing about queer women together, there is an active disgust, even when it is written by women for the enjoyment of other women. That is a hell of a problem. I’ll be honest, even the thought makes my blood boil a bit.

There is a void left for the male gaze, because guess what, unless two women are fucking in full display? We’re told it doesn’t count. It isn’t a relationship. It’s not really sex. Go back to the above Xena fandom and you’ll find people insisting that a pair of women kissing, calling each other soul mates, calling each other girlfriends, sleeping in the same bed, several seasons of constant innuendo, and being married in a future life does not imply homosexuality at all. They’re just friends. Even though the producers were forced to edit the opening credits of the show on numerous occasions because they said certain cuts implied that Xena was interested in women.

I see female characters in general torn to pieces. Their motivations and their needs. It’s no wonder fandom doesn’t ship them because they seem to only exist as fodder for meta and argument. And when there is celebration, they’re all alone because the men around them have been shipped off with each other.

I am not saying anyone has an obligation to ship or not ship certain sexualities, pairings, or couples. But when there is a severe, blatant imbalance erasing female sexuality and relationships, attention should be paid to as to why. Doing nothing or passing the buck doesn’t help anyone.

As a given disclaimer, most men shipped by fandom are also white and cis. This applies to the fandom spectrum as a whole and continues to add to the rampant lack of representation.


Them: I don't think kids should be exposed to gay relationships.
You: Why not?
Them: It's introducing children to sexuality! They're too young for that!
You: So when a prince and princess kiss in a Disney movie, are they introduced to sexuality? When the prince and the princess get married and have a child, is that introducing your child to sexuality?
Them: NO! But if they see a man and a man, or a woman and a woman together... they're going to start asking questions! Like how a man and a man can... you know, do anything together.
You: You think the only thing people think when they see a gay couple is "I wonder how they have sex"? Furthermore, you think a CHILD is going to even know what that means? When the prince and the princess kiss, does your 4 year old daughter ask, "mommy, how do people have intercourse"? No. She just sees two people in love. If you remember when you were a kid, you probably didn't think about sex every time you saw two people happy together.
Them: But it'll bring up all kinds of questions, it'll confuse my child!
You: Then be a fucking parent and explain it to your child. The only question that might be brought up is "mom, why don't you want gay people to be happy?". And when you don't have a good answer for that question, you can look your child in the eye and say "It's because I'm a bigot".

Fun historical fact, there used to be more gay and lesbian content in early silent films until religious groups protested resulting in “decency standards.”

Fun historical fact, there used to be more gay and lesbian content in early silent films until religious groups protested resulting in “decency standards.”


As anyone who follows my main blog knows, I’ve started watching Adventure Time with my boyfriend.

And let me tell you, this scene? This scene right here (In fact the whole episode) may have become one of my favorite clips in all of children’s cartoon history. I’m really not even kidding. 

Now, I’ve talked a lot about my experiences with media representation and my bisexuality. It was really hard for me when I started trying to sort through my identity in Middle School to slowly realize that the way I felt, the attractions that I had, were no where to be seen in the fiction that I had previously found so much comfort in. 

Lack of media representation hurts. It feels like being ignored. Like being forgotten. Like being alone. You are erased. Heroines, Heroes, Villains, side kicks, comic relief, love interests, no one felt the way I did. People like me had no place in these stories, and that hurt

It still does actually, but with age has come the ability to seek out queer literature. This is a luxury that I as a kid did not have.

So…Bubblegum and Marceline. It’s more than a cute ship. The subtext is…really just text here. Swap one of the genders and there would be no question at all that Marceline is crushing on Bubblegum hard (and later, when we find out that Bubblegum wears MArceline’s shirts as Pajamas? How could we not all see that that crush is returned) 

We are skating on the line of canon here. Of a children’s cartoon giving representation to kids, like me, who are desperate to see their feelings reflected. 

I would give a million billion dollars for Adventure Time to just make it blatantly canon. Give us his one thing. Please. You don’t know how much it means to us. 

Bolding mine.

The announcement that the US government will henceforth push the achievement of “gay rights” internationally, as a key element of its foreign policy, gives new meaning to the phrase “blowback” – and cut out the snickering! Because the self-righteousness and narcissism of American policymakers, in this instance, will have very real consequences for gay people throughout the world, and it isn’t going to be pretty.

Pinkwashing Imperialism.

The “gay issue” is becoming an increasingly hot topic in Western media coverage of the Arab world. In fact, beginning with the spate of gay killings in US occupied Iraq, the status of non-normative sexualities has perhaps been enfolded within a discourse that highlights the plight of “women” in Arab/Muslim countries, and the ideological, material, and military mobilization that such a discourse licenses.

This is not to say that homophobia does not exist in the Middle East. It does. It exists in every country in the world. However, the question here is: Are these groups/governments legitimately and honestly concerned about LGBTQs in the Middle East, or are they simply using them and their struggles for their own ends, whether it is to show how much more advanced they are or to deflect attention away from their own homophobia/political problems? Does the Israeli government, for example, honestly want to help Palestinian LGBTQs, or is it simply using them to make a point about Israeli society being more advanced, and to whitewash its occupation? Indeed, if the Israeli government wanted to help Palestinian LGBTQs, wouldn’t removing an occupation be the first step?

- Pinkwashing Palestine.

Imperialistic states like USA and Israel have not only appropriated women’s rights to instigate more war but they have also invaded and appropriated the space of LGBT*Q communities by using their identity as an excuse to wage more war. The phenomenon is called Pinkwashing. Make sure you read about it.

(via mehreenkasana)

I posted about pinkwashing in the U.S. and Israeli armies a couple months ago. More proof of how the U.S. utilizes concerns of predominantly white liberals as “public-relations tools,” forestalling criticism of serious human rights issues that primarily affect non-whites and/or non-U.S. citizens—who have no say in U.S. foreign policy or any means of recourse.

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  • a great deal of show creators/writers are aware of fandom and slash. people have been tweeting creators/actors their fanfiction for a really long time. 
  • also Google is a thing. 
  • as is the New York Times, TIME, The Guardian and many other news sources. 
  • fandom and fanfiction is not a secret; the idea that slash is popular among women is not a secret and that involvement with fandom creates loyal fans.
  • thus creators and writers will throw little bones to fandom via queerbaiting
  • this is sort of bad
  • queerbaiting involves fetishizing queerness but never committing to it. queerbaiting is like playing gay chicken, queerbaiting is meant to tantalize but not explore the relationship, queer baiting is the equivalent of telling your friend you care but then screaming loudly as possible NO HOMO
  • queerbaiting is not progress
  • thank you for letting me use bullet points
Data from the new study show, for example, that women make up a majority of the gay and transgender population, and people of color are more likely to identify as gay or transgender than whites. Gay and transgender women, and especially women of color, are also more likely to be raising children than their male counterparts. These data suggests that the “typical” gay and transgender family is likely battling sex and race discrimination in addition to the economic barriers unique to gay and transgender Americans. In other words, achieving social equality and economic security for these families cannot be accomplished by achieving only gay and transgender equality.

New Data Demonstrate the Unique Needs of Gay and Transgender Families | Center for American Progress


And of course, isn’t that new show ‘the new normal’ about two white cis gay men? hmph. 

(via biyuti)